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Why are you worried?

 
Dr Timothy Lane | 24 Mar 2015

Diagnosis matters. When something is wrong with your body and you feel unwell, you need to know what you are dealing with. And that works for spiritual issues, too. For treatment to work, good diagnosis matters.

Defining Worry
So, what exactly is worry or anxiety? (I will use the words “worry” and “anxiety” interchangeably in this article.) It’s a condition common to virtually every human, in every society. Not many people are truly care-free. But what is worry?!

While various factors and components are very important, the Bible cuts deeper, because it says that worry is a deeply spiritual issue. This is not to say that the Bible ignores or disputes the mental, physiological, historical, social or environmental aspects of worry, but that it sees them all as part of a spiritual issue—that worry, ultimately, is a response to life lived in God’s world. Worry is, therefore, a response to God himself.

When, in Matthew 6 v 25-34, Jesus commands us three times: “Do not worry,” the Greek word used in the Gospel is merimnao. It literally means “a distracted mind” or a “double mind.” In the broader context of the passage, this division, or divided loyalty, is between the kingdom of God and my own kingdom. It is to be distracted from the first kingdom by the other. The Bible scholar Dick France has a really helpful insight into what worry therefore is: it is to be over-concerned about something other than the kingdom of God.

That is what worry is: over-concern. This is quite simple, and hugely helpful. It is also helpful in telling us what worry is not.

  1. Worry is not the Same as Concern If worry is “over-concern,” then it is different from “concern”. It is appropriate to be concerned about things. What Jesus is forbidding is “over-concern,” and not concern, itself. The two are not the same, and you can recognize the difference because concern takes wise action and prays dependently. Worry, or over-concern, thinks and acts as though everything is up to you, or completely out of control, and prays desperately, if at all.

  2. The Solution to Worry is not Becoming Laid-back The answer to “over-concern” is not “under-concern.” The antidote to “over-concern” is not just being a lazy or “laid-back” person. Often times, being disengaged and indifferent can masquerade as godliness when in fact it is not. We all know laid-back people. Maybe you are one yourself. It can seem a wonderful way to live! But it is worth digging below the laid-back surface.

  3. Work is not Necessarily an Expression of Worry Another common error is to think that the way to avoid worry is to become passive, and simply look to God to provide for all of your needs. Jesus’ illustrations about birds and plants might seem to suggest that passivity is next to godliness! Nothing could be further from the truth. God may provide food for the birds, but they have to actively go and get it. Of course, working extremely hard could be a sign that we are deeply, chronically over-concerned; but it is not automatically so.


This World, or God’s Kingdom?
With these caveats in place, let’s return to what worry is. The broader context of Matthew 6 v 25-34 brings clarity to the essence of worry. Jesus’ teaching on worry comes in his famous “Sermon on the Mount,” where the challenge Jesus is repeatedly posing is: Are you living as if this life is all there is, or are you living your life for the kingdom of God? Which God? The essence of worry is in attempting to find your ultimate hope, comfort and meaning in something that is temporal and fleeting. It happens when you treat something in creation as a “god”—so you rely on it, and seek blessing in it. But this world lacks the stability you need in order to be worry free. If you put your hope in things that are unstable, you will be unstable. Your loyalty is divided between something in creation (money is just one example) and God. Something in creation (even a good thing) is usurping the rightful place that only God deserves in your life. Whenever you place your ultimate hope in anything in this world, you will struggle with worry.

While theoretically we may say that God is most important in our lives, and we may say we know that he is in control, we struggle to live this way practically in light of the circumstances we face on a regular basis.

Worry is over-concern that results from “over-loving” something—that is, loving it more than God. Concern results when you love something in a proper way and not more than God. Indifference is a lack of love. It is the opposite of worry, not the antidote or cure for worry.

Worry is an Opportunity
How can worry be an opportunity? When you find yourself worrying, you actually have an opportunity to see what kinds of things tend to get your attention more than God. Your over- concerns reveal your over-loves. This can be an opportunity to grow. Jesus has a way of cutting to the core of the problem and providing a deeper, more substantial solution: But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6 v 33)

Jesus is bringing us back to the right priorities. What are you living for? he asks. He is calling us to re- orient our lives around the living God and his priorities. We need to keep first things first and second things second. And as we do that, we will begin to be liberated from our worries.

This is an edited extract from the forthcoming book Living without Worry by Dr Timothy Lane, published by The Good Book Company. Tim is President of the Institute for Pastoral Care and is currently speaking on this subject at various locations around the UK, including at Word Alive. Living without worry is launching in the US on 1st May. 

 

Sheree

2:00 PM GMT on March 25th
I am beyond excited about this new book! I was helped even today by learning that worry is "over" concern. I can be concerned without being worried. That small slice of truth gives me hope that God can help me to embrace and turn to Him with my concerns while seeking to grow in wise self-counsel about when and how my concerns bleed into worry. I can already see that this will help me better discover discover what or who I'm loving more than God. There is a specific situation to which I want to apply this new insight. Thank you!

Elsie Bredenkamp

3:27 PM GMT on March 25th
Great information! Thanks!

Douglas Campbell

2:27 AM GMT on March 26th
Enlightening Words !

Patrick

4:45 PM GMT on March 27th
So many things I see on this topic don't address the issue of responsibility. If I'm supposed to see that something happens, but I'm concerned that it's not happening, I will tend to worry. To call that an idol is destructive to discipleship. And if all you do (in essence) is to tell me, well, yes, you are responsible to accomplish that, we are back at square one. There needs to be a better level of integration between 'concern' teaching and 'duty' teaching if we are to be able to get balance and traction on these challenges.

Kyle Johnston

11:45 AM BST on March 30th
Great post! Thanks Dr Lane, that's a helpful definition of what worry is.

I think I understand the point you are making, Patrick. Two resources that deal with this issue of 'responsibilities' and 'concerns' in the midst of anxiety are: Dr David Powlison's talk called "Handling Anxiety" (http://www.ccef.org/resources/podcast/help-and-hope-special-edition-powlison-handling-anxiety) and an appendix at the end of "Instruments in the Redeemer's Hands" by Paul David Tripp. I have found that material helpful: what am I responsible to do, today? And what concerns do I have that I must entrust to God? It's both liberating and practically helpful to able to separate those two things.